Women, despite the tremendous advance they have made since throwing off the shackles of patriarchy, still remain one of the most vulnerable groups ever. Even in developed societies, women — especially when young — are prone to sexual abuse, whether at the hands of strangers, acquaintances or worst of all family members. Such traumatic experiences are bound to leave an impact on their emotional lives for all time to come. So if you have been dating a woman who has been sexually abused in the past, here is how you can help her as well as your relationship. Be understanding and patient The most significant indicator of a sexually abusive past is perhaps an aversion to sexual intimacy. So if you feel that despite having a warm, fulfilling relationship otherwise, your girlfriend - inexplicably - keeps avoiding intimacy with you, it could mean she has been hurt in the past.
The Impact of Childhood Abuse on Women’s Adult Relationships
The Impact of Childhood Abuse on Women's Adult Relationships
As a survivor of nearly eighteen years of violence and emotional abuse , the pain and anxiety caused by trauma has often felt more to me like getting a haircut — recurring experiences I go through over and over, because the emotional after-effects are ever-lasting. And these symptoms are not unique to me. Speaking with fellow survivors has helped me realize that in some ways, my own trauma and grief is here to stay for good. But I also know that I am enough, and I am not alone, no matter how much it might feel like the opposite is true. To find out exactly what friends and loved ones can do to help, I spoke with fellow survivors, friends and partners of survivors, counselors, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapists to put together this guide. It turns out, there are many ways to ease the blow of trauma, according to the survivors and experts Teen Vogue spoke with.
Dating abuse is a pattern of behaviors one person uses to gain and maintain power and control over their partner. Explore the tabs below to learn a few of the common types of abuse so you can better identify them. Experiencing even one or two of these warning signs in a relationship is a red flag that abuse may be present.
Emotional abuse messes with your head. The red flags go unnoticed to average people and sometimes even to the individual being emotionally abused. The only difference is that the emotional abuser does not use physical hitting, kicking, pinching, grabbing, pushing or other physical forms of harm. When someone emotionally abuses you, they are constantly putting you down to a point where you question every choice you make. And as you go through relationships of possibly choosing similar people, you begin to not trust your judgment at all.