Dating as a queer woman presents a unique set of issues. Men would either ask me to explain what the term meant, incorrectly assume they knew exactly what it meant, or completely misidentify me. It quickly became a frustrating ritual for me, a self-identified queer woman and someone with a graduate-level education in gender and queer studies, to constantly be in a position of educating. Knowing what the term queer means, and how people choose to use and identity with it is vital. Being queer, like being gay or straight is not a choice. It is a form of sexual identification and gender, and for some, the term even falls into a larger social and political stance.
The Kinsey Scale, developed in by Alfred Kinsey, Clyde Martin and Wardell Pomeroy, uses the numbers 1 through 6 to determine an individual's sexual preference. People who place at a 0 on the scale are considered heterosexual -- those with a score of 6 are considered gay or lesbian. Bisexual men and women are between a 1 and 5 on the scale. Aside from the formal test, there are several signs and behaviors that can indicate bisexuality in men.
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Some girls might take such news in stride, barely batting an eyelid and treating it with utter nonchalance, unperturbed by the fact that he is as attracted to guys as she is. Others, however, might struggle to come to terms with such an unexpected revelation and, for a number of reasons, may be planning to run for the hills. You may be of a highly traditional persuasion and struggle with the concept of someone existing in anything other than an entirely heterosexual relationship.
Growing up in a small, working-class community in the Midwest, I was conditioned to go for a "manly" man. This was well before my progressive liberal arts education. I was attracted to men with large appetites and dirt under their nails. Men who worked hard, watched sports, and drank beer.