When someone loses his or her spouse to suicide, the resulting heartache is severe, anguished and complicated. It is difficult to know how to offer solace to a grieving loved one in this situation, because no simple solutions exist. Jack Gordon notes that "suicide survivors" often choose to deal with their heartaches in private because the topic of suicide is still "taboo" in society. Your willingness to offer comfort in these situations is particularly important. Those bereaved by suicide often receive less support than those bereaved through other causes of death, and the most important thing you can do, when comforting a person who has lost a spouse to suicide, is simply to "be there," according to the Harvard Health publication, "Left Behind After Suicide" Let the person know you are available to talk at any time.
How to Comfort Someone Whose Spouse Committed Suicide
Dating after losing your spouse
After having been married, possibly for many years, and going through the trauma and grief that comes with the death of a spouse, widows and widowers may find dating daunting. When is the right time to start dating again? Should one date exclusively or date several people at the same time, and should it be casual or serious? There are many right answers to these questions, and it all comes down to what makes the widow or widower comfortable. Just make sure that you can honor your spouse and still be emotionally prepared for this new chapter of your life.
As we continue to share different perspectives on loss, we welcome this week Andrew H. He shares about their deep love for each other and what it was like in those early hours after learning of her death. While the relationships we all had with our loved ones is a bit different, we are united by the grief suicide can bring. I lost my wife, Rosanne, of nearly 22 years, on September 10, and like virtually all in this new and unexpected club we now belong to, I had no clue. Rosanne had said that to me in the spring of last year, but I remember saying to her not to talk like that because she always bounced back.
Grief support groups, condolence advice, funeral etiquette and more. I was thirty-nine years old when my husband died unexpectedly in his sleep. It was the shock of a lifetime. A few weeks after his death, I received a letter from my insurance company.