All Rights Reserved. Terms and Conditions of Service. There are all sorts of dating experiences many have in their lifetime—from the rotating door of bachelors and bachelorettes in our 20s to the more mature approach to finding love in our 30s, meeting a partner is no easy task. After all, you or your potential partner invest time, energy and heart into their marriage and their partner was taken too soon from them. Believing that love can happen again for them or for yourself requires strength, bravery and trial-and-error. The spectrum of eligibility is strenuous enough without throwing in a broken heart.
So often my clients ask about dating a widower. Is it a red flag? Should I proceed with caution? Is it a losing proposition? And my answer may surprise you: widowers are some of they best, most eligible, grownup men out there.
Five things I’ve learnt about dating in your 50s, by a man newly single after 28 years of marriage
Dating someone who has been married before and has created a life with someone else before you, is not easy and there are many struggles and challenges that you will face. Thinking very carefully before entering into this relationship is of vital importance, especially if you have not been married before, or if you have had no children of your own, as you might not get the chance to be married or he might not want to have any more children. A widower has made a life with someone else and he has been through a wedding, in-laws and has created a family already, so before you start to get serious you need to discuss a future and what you would like before you or he can fully commit. A widower is even more of a challenge as with everything in life, time is the only thing that can heel wounds. It is also important to understand that there is an external family that will want to share experiences with the children.
Thankfully, you have nothing to worry about as long as you see these seven signs. Most widowers seek love again more quickly than widows, usually after one year vs. On the other hand, there are a number of serious concerns. You are better off leaving and starting over with a new man who is ready.